Getting married calls for a celebration
But all Amena got out from her marriage was a devillish nightmare.
|Amena had always desired to get married and the image she had was that of a loving husband who would protect her and their children. But that dream vapourised on her wedding. She had married a violent man and from then on, he repeatedly beat her, saying that she was barren. Three years later, Amena bore him a daughter and shortly after, a son.
His obsession with control grew worse and he would beat up Amena and the two children if they did not obey him. If his daughter was not the first to exit the school gate as he instructed, he would beat her severely in the face. As the girl grew older, he began acting strangely around her and told her to sleep in a different room from her mother. Eventually, he sexually assaulted his own daughter when she was 14 and Amena did not know how to help her daughter understand why her father would do this to her.
He took to beating their son too and would rape Amena as well. Locking them up in the house, the only time he let them out was into the yard so they could go to the bathroom. Their torment was intense and he used every method to break them physically, emotionally and psychologically.
Confiding in her in-laws, Amena managed to flee from her husband’s clutches but he caught his daughter back. In his anger, he took to raping his daughter, making her watch pornographic videos and repeating what she saw. Amena went back to save her daughter and finally escaped this violent man.
She flung herself on the streets of Afghanistan, unsure of what to do and where to go and passersby advised her to go to HAGAR for help. HAGAR provided her with shelter and legal assistance hoping that she can move around without fear of her husband recapturing her. Amena and her children found respite and were able to laugh again.
HAGAR provides critical recovery support for victims who have suffered the trauma of sexual exploitation, human trafficking, forced labour or extreme violence. Working from 10 countries, HAGAR provides protection, personal transformation, community reintegration, and economic empowerment for thousands of victims across the world, walking the whole journey of recovery together with them.
Coming from a powerful tribe, Amena’s husband has always skirted the laws and evaded legal action. He had contacts in authority and would exercise them to prevent any action from being taken against him. Amena, though, continues to harbour hope for the future because at least now she is free from him and her children can study.
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HAGAR pursues the highest degree of care and protection for each client. Names have been changed and images do not necessarily reflect the individual profiled.
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